two cents worth
April 4, 2012 @ 12:50 AM
I'm not one who would question someone's decision unless I see a need to or unless I see how it is affecting the people who are involved in it. I have always been a firm believer how every decision you make is a choice and if it is a mistake, it would because of the choice you made.
As much as I try not to get involve in the situation, I can't help to feel the pain everyone else is facing because of this decision you make. It pains me to see how everyone else bravely shrugs everything off and try to respect your decision, how they try to hide they disagreement of your decision and how they just want you to be happy. What makes it worst is the fact that I could not do a thing about it to ease that heavy feeling. Now it pains me even more to see everyone else especially to one important person, dragging their feet but still doing everything above and beyond just to make you have at least a decent wedding.
What hurts me the most is that, they'd do anything and I mean anything just to show you that they agree to disagree with you, just to show you they support you. And the least that you could have done is be here, for her, the one person whose heart is possibly breaking at every single choice you made amounting to this.
I just think that getting married is a huge deal and perhaps you have your reasons that I don't know and understand but what I do understand is the fact that you could have done a little more to show how much this means to you. If she is going to marry you, she is marrying into the family as well and I think it is only fair that she makes the effort to get to know the family not just meet once and then decided it's time to get married. If you can spend so much time being on her side why couldn't she put in just a little effort to visit us, to visit the one person who is suppose to matter the most right now. Imagine how would she feels meeting her for the second time and it is at your wedding? Imagine how heart breaking it would be for her? If I could feel this much pain for her, why couldn't you?
Like I said, these are all a matter of choices and at the end of the day, this is what you chose. I am in no position to question your decision, consider these my two cents worth.
0 comments: leave a comment